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Dating Advice for Men: Chemistry vs. Compatibility

Because I am a Dating & Relationship Expert for Men, I can spot things in people right away.  I was at a party last week.  I was casually talking to a guy named Jeff.   He asked me what I did.  I let him know that I help men find their dream woman.  I take them through a 7 step process and look at their own unique dating and love blind spots.  After I take them through the process, the men experience profound changes in their lives, feeling more confident, embracing their masculine power, understanding women, and choosing a woman who will bring out the best in them.  They are happy.  He seemed interested in what I had to share.

I asked him about his last relationship.  He said he went through divorce.  I asked him what happened.  He said, “Well, she was super attractive and the sex was great.  She eventually pressured me into marriage.  After we got married, we had nothing in common.”  I asked him, “Did you know that you didn’t have anything in common while you were dating her?”   Jeff says, “I didn’t care.  She was hot.  I was getting laid often.  After we got married, our sex life went down hill because she wasn’t happy.  We ended up getting a divorce.”

Jeff’s need were simple.  He was attracted to his woman.  He had regular sex.  That made him happy at the moment.  I hated to break this to Jeff, but there is more to a lasting relationship than just chemistry alone.   He ended up getting married to a woman that he had NOTHING in common with.   The oxytocin that is released from her during orgasm bonded the two of them.   Once she was bonded, then the expectations go up at least 1000%.   The expectations is what you call nagging and drama.   Because he wasn’t compatible, the expectations from her were never fulfilled, thus the divorce.

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