As a forty-something woman in love, I can offer some insight about what woman really want. Before I found my soul mate, I had to first find happiness, on my own, without a man in my life. It took years of failed relationships before I realized self-created happiness is critical. Can you really expect your partner to be your end all and be all? Sure, you can expect this but if you want a healthy relationship, you must realize your mate can’t be your sole source for happiness; this fulfillment manifests from within and anything else is icing on the cake!
We want different things from our partners during different stages of our lives. If you’re looking for a booty call or to be the puppeteer of your partner (without true give and take), then this isn’t the article for you. But, if you’re looking for a healthy, long lasting relationship, one that thrives on love, read on my friend!
The true foundation for a healthy relationship is reflective of partnership. It’s not one-sided; it requires give and take. This truth must be realized to embrace love whole-heartedly. At times, one partner will be facing hardship and during this period, the other must step up. This is cyclical; roles will reverse at times. Love relationships are not perfect; they will be flawed. We must accept this reality, if not, the fairy tale illusion of perfection will cause failure. If you’re not honest by taking ownership of your actions and expectations, change, otherwise, you’ll attract similar characteristics from your line up of future inadequate partners.
A healthy relationship must have a genuine foundation to manifest success in love. Women want to find a partner whose eyes are reflective of their own heart’s desires. This doesn’t mean we can’t accomplish fulfilling our heart’s desires without this person but instead, it means this individual will encourage and support our passion because our happiness is important! It is essential the partnership is fully blended, mind, body and spirit; this energizes the lives of both individuals involves. This heavenly fusion, when genuine and vulnerable, will shock the mortality and awaken the souls of those involved. It manifests love that renews a zest for life; it is a cherished and special bond. We want a union that celebrates our lives together, and fuels courage to overcome life’s adversity. The entwined collective strength of this partnership will empower the individuals in the relationship to brave life’s trials and tribulations knowing each significant other will always have the other’s back. Although you can’t walk in each other’s shoes, together you create an intangible force that you’re able to carry with you to help you conquer any battle! Women want to feel special, to know their existence is needed. We want a relationship authentically blended with love and spirituality. Realize this, put it out there, and manifest it into your life; it’s possible. I know this because I’m experiencing true love and you can too!
Kathryn J. Williams is an author and artist who works to increase spiritual wellbeing through inspirational poetry and unique commissioned drawings. Her book, ‘What Can I Say When Words Escape Me, being present in times of sorrow,’ (2009) was written to help those suffering sudden life hardships. In her business Lifetime Art Impressions, LLC, her clients commission oil pastel drawings, personalized inspirational poetry, and unique bereavement products. She is currently working on her second book, which is reflective of her journey, creativity and healing.
“What is it that you really want?” We all have different answers to this question depending on the day. However if you are like me and my patients you are probably really bad at speculating what it is that you really want. Answering this is like going to Vegas and betting at the craps table. You can estimate what will make you fulfilled about as well as you can estimate the next number to be rolled.
We all are busy women in a high paced world and when asked this you may answer with something like attention, time or gifts. However, if you were to sit quietly and go deep inside your heart you may find the answer to be something more. I believe that the top three things women want is to be content, have confidence and feel loved. More than just a want, I believe these are needs, just like everything and everyone; we all want to be accepted. Women need to know that they are loved and making a difference. During my years as a naturopath I have seen thousands of women on a daily basis and I have discovered that many women really don’t like where they are. We look at our friends or other women and instantly we start comparing ourselves to them, doing this leads to unhappiness. Women who are insecure are suffering in their minds and emotions, I know because I have been there.
So how do we get what we really want? How to we have an “all is well” feeling every day? I believe you can have all these wants right now, in three easy steps. First, I have learned it begins with YOU. If you depend on a man to give this to you, you will always be disappointed. If you are expecting others to fulfill these wants you always will end up disappointed. You must choose to stop comparing and be thankful. You must wake up each morning making the decision to be happy with what you already have. Second, you must love yourself. Knowing how to love your-self is extremely important. Self love is at the very core of wellbeing, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. Last, you cannot enjoy anything in life if you are not at peace with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have. Many women in this world are unhappy with their appearance. Dealing with feelings of dislike toward yourself will weigh heavy on your shoulders. Learn to accept yourself and you will feel fulfilled. Instead of feeling bad about yourself, every single day tell yourself that you are a beautiful and unique person. More importantly, instead of disliking something about yourself do something to correct your flaws. There is a solution to every problem you have if you are willing to make the effort you can have what you really really want.
Cammi Balleck, Ph.D, is a leading Happy Hormone Doctor. She specializes in teaching how to unleash happy hormones and be healthy and happy. She graduated in 2003 with a Doctorate Degree in Naturopathic Health and is the author of Making Happy Happen. More information can be found at www.makinghappyhappen.com
Cammi Balleck, Ph.D, is the author of Making Happy Happen and is a leading Happy Hormone Doctor. She specializes in teaching how to unleash your happy hormones naturally. She graduated in 2003 with a Doctorate Degree in Naturopathic Health and has been the owner of the successful Elite Wellness Center since. Cammi’s passions are helping everyone improve their health and live happy, whole lives. Cammi lives in Colorado, and loves the outdoors and climbing 14,000 foot mountains. More information can be found at www.makinghappyhappen.com.
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